Are You Struggling To Recover From A Significant Loss?
Are you consumed with grief, longing, sadness or anger following the loss of a loved one? Are your feelings impacting your ability to focus, complete tasks and be present with friends and family? Has it become difficult to get through each day without intense emotions? Perhaps with your loved one gone, life does not even seem worth living. Do you wish you could make peace with your loss and move forward with more ease?
It can feel extremely painful, confusing and isolating to lose someone you love. You may be feeling intense loneliness and sadness, or anger, that your loved one is gone. You may even feel anger toward your loved one for no longer being there, and that may make you feel guilty. The realization of loss can strike suddenly—when the reality of not having your spouse lying next to you in bed or not having a parent there at an important event hits you. The loss becomes real over and over.
There Are Many Ways To Grieve
Difficult emotions can cause people to shut down. You may find that you have no energy or that you are too sad to even get out of bed. You may feel guilty that you are still here while your loved one is gone, which can lead to despair and disconnection with everyday life. Or, you may feel that “getting over” your grief—which we are often expected to do after a certain period of time—would be a betrayal to your loved one.
Grief is often felt most acutely when it seems like other people’s lives have returned to normal—after the funeral, when friends and family have left. Many people become reclusive, finding it difficult to even get out of bed. You may feel alone in your grief, like no one can understand what you’re going through.
Grief does not follow a linear course. Some days, you may feel totally normal, and other days, you may feel the loss very intensely. Grief is a process, and one that can be unpredictable. It can come in waves, and a period of intense sadness may come after you’ve felt better for a while. Sometimes, you may feel numb. At others, you may feel overwhelmed by despair or rage.
We usually talk about grief in terms of a death, but it can occur after any loss. Very often, the end of an important relationship or the loss of a job can produce grief. These losses can be difficult to mourn because it’s hard to recognize them as causes for grief. Nevertheless, they can produce the same mixture of emotions and cause depression in the same way that grief after a death can.
The good news is that grief counseling can help. If you’re struggling to navigate the grief, anger and sadness that often lingers months and even years after a loss, a compassionate and experienced therapist can help you explore challenging feelings and find relief.
Grief Counseling Can Help You Find Relief, Acceptance And Peace
While the loss of a loved one can cause deep pain, it is possible to heal. Life will never be exactly the same, and you will not forget your loved one, but you can adjust to the new normal and enjoy life again.
Grief counseling with the therapists at the Chupik Group can help. We provide a safe place where you can feel understood. Particularly if the loss was sudden or traumatic (suicide, accident, etc.), it can feel like no one understands what you’re going through. Individual and group therapy can offer a place to share your emotions and experience with people who can understand.
Grief can feel isolating, but in sessions, you can learn that what you’re experiencing is normal. There is no right or wrong way to grieve, and healing is a process. Through sharing your unique experience in grief counseling, you can develop an understanding of what your loss means to you. In a safe, empathetic setting, with a trusted therapist, you can move through the grieving process in your own way. Just as there are many ways to grieve, there are many tools that can help you through the process. Your therapist can help you find the best ones for you.
Coming to counseling is the first step toward healing. By seeking help, you have become an active participant in moving through the grief process. You don’t have to remain stuck. With support, guidance and a desire to process and accept your loss, you can move forward with life in a way that honors your loved one.
You may need support while navigating this challenging time, but still have questions or concerns about grief counseling…
I’m embarrassed to seek help for something that I think I should be able to get over myself.
Because grief is something that is so common in our culture, you may feel reluctant to seek professional help. However, grief can be difficult to handle on your own, and going through the process in a supportive environment can help you heal much faster. Grief can lead to depression and isolation, which can have negative impacts on your day-to-day functioning. Working through grief in a healthy way can help you move through the mourning process with more ease. Grief counseling can help you figure out what a normal life looks like for you after the loss you experienced and return to a happy, fulfilled life.
I’m worried that talking about my feelings will bring up difficult emotions and make me feel worse.
It can be scary to talk about the intense feelings that arise after a loss. You may feel that suppressing your emotions, keeping them to yourself or trying not to feel them at all is the best way to deal with them. However, ignoring these painful feelings is likely to cause more problems in the long run. While it can be difficult at first, sharing your unique experience of grief with an understanding therapist or support group can help you work through the grief process with more ease, come to a better understanding of your loss and explore what your life can be following it.
There Is Life And Joy Following A Loss
If you need help navigating the emotions and experience of loss, or if you still have questions about grief counseling at Chupik Counseling in Austin, Temple and Killeen, we invite you to contact our office and schedule an initial consultation.